Most of us want to change the world, but only a few of us are willing to change our own minds!

Yet there is a shift taking place in the world, where more and more people are recognizing that it is our own thoughts and attitudes that determine how we look at the world and, ultimately, what we see.

You Should Stop Trying To ‘Fake It Till You Make It’

There is a common notion for us as a society to just fake it till you make it. For those wondering what that means, it means putting a smile on your face and laughing like life is wonderful while your problems and struggles remain untouched, unresolved, and haunting you when nobody is looking.

Studies have suggested that people highly value authenticity when they purchase goods and services. This makes sense. Simply put, people don’t want to be lied to. They want to trust those who surround them, and that includes the people in their professional relationships. If that trust is broken, it can take eons to rebuild. So instead of pretending you’re a CSS wizard, tell the truth.

If you’re busy trying to fake something, what you’re not doing is expending the effort to learn that skill. Which means what you’re really doing is holding yourself back in your career.

In the world of social media, we are constantly in front of other people. There’s a lot of pressure to always be “on,” which breeds a pressure to perform. In response to this, a “fake it till you make it” gospel has formed.

The faking nonsense not only damages you and your mind but others around you. At some point, you will break. You will fall apart, and you will become self-destructive and push people away. You might even become defensive of the question being asked once it becomes noticeable something is wrong. You also begin to forget who you are and who you want to be. You forget what it truly feels like to be happy, smiling without forcing it, or what a true laugh feels like. A laugh from the bottom of your stomach that radiates out so loudly that it makes others laugh with you.

Let people ask you what is wrong, and tell them. If they are asking, it is because they care. All those weeds you have in your garden will soon disappear, but if you continue on that path of faking it, they will only grow more and accumulate to where it is a disaster area to clean up. This only creates more work for us to do. The best advice I can give to someone working through their past or present is to face it till you make it. Faking it will only prolong creating a healthy mentality. Harboring so much deep inside will only make it harder for you to breathe. So, inhale and exhale slowly until you it no longer feels like a chore.